The Value for the month of June is TRUSTDate: 1st June 2014
WHAT IS TRUST?
Definition 1: Trust means being able to predict what other people will do and what situations will occur. If we can surround ourselves with people we trust, then we can create a safe present and an even better future.
Definition 2: Trust means making an exchange with someone when you do not have full knowledge about them, their intent and the things they are offering to you - trusting their honesty.
Definition 3: Trust means giving something now with an expectation that it will be repaid, possibly in some unspecified way at some unspecified time in the future.
Definition 4: Trust means enabling other people to take advantage of your vulnerabilities—but expecting that they will not do this.
TEACHING THE VALUE OF TRUST
At Manor Field, we regularly praise children for ‘Living the Values’. Being explicit and telling a child exactly which value they have shown will help them to build a firm understanding of that value in all its different forms.
This principle is the same for helping them learn the value of trust: point out every time they have behaved in a way that earns them trust so they can begin to understand what ‘being trustworthy’ really means. This might be praising them when they have turned their light out at the agreed time, taken only the agreed number of treats from the cupboard or put their toys away immediately when asked.
Giving your child something concrete, such as a ‘trust money’ (chocolate coins or plastic money) will help them see clearly the trust you have in them build up over time.
Deposits in the “Trust Account”
[Trust Account] Explain to your children that each time they tell the truth or carry out a task exactly as you asked, a deposit is made in their “trust account.” The more deposits that are made, the more you trust them. And thus, the more privileges they earn in return.
Dividends for Your Child
Initially, the returns on their deposits might be staying up a bit later at the weekend or being trusted to help themselves to a treat from the cupboard. As their account grows and they grow older, the dividends can be greater – such as being allowed a sleepover, going to the park with friends, a mobile phone etc.
Depleting the Trust Account
Your child needs to know that if just one lie is told to you, it can completely deplete their trust account. Then they’ll have to start from scratch to make deposits to build up that trust once again.
This visual demonstration of the deposits and withdrawals from their “Trust Account” should really support them in ‘Living the Value’ of trust at home as well as school.